Thursday, March 22, 2012

Two cool toddlers

Small miracle this morning. The boys are excited about the word "poopie". They now associate it with diaper changes. When I saw "poopie" the boys actually point to their diapers, and sometimes also point at the diaper changing station. And here comes the miracle part: if all of this pointing happens, they don't squirm for the entire change. No movement at all! Also means I don't have to chase them down :P Downside: "Poopie" and "puppy" are interchangeable words to Adam... at least we are cat people around here ;)

Another realization this morning: Building a play set in the backyard can be somewhat straightforward (although not exactly easy, we have discovered). But building a play set in the back yard, in the rain AND with two 19 month old "helpers"? Definitely
not straightforward. More like a morning adventure that wore us all out. But it was kind of fun. At least I can blame any discrepancies on the toddler hired hands :)

Love this pic /\

(These pictures were taken at an earlier stage of construction, on a day when Alan was home.. but you get the idea)

Friday, March 9, 2012

Not Parenting "By the Book" Anymore

Because there are way too many versions of how to raise kids "the right way".
I went by books the first 6-9 months. I didn't know what I was doing, so I did need help. I didn't supplement with formula at all except on days 3-5, made organic homemade baby food, etc. Never cloth diapered because I was told I would not get help changing diapers ;) I wrote a post about letting go, and how I am okay with not being "super mom" ;)

Now toddler books focus on how to train your kids to be "good". I have read several of them. I have used lots of good ideas from them. But, each book seems to have its own tone of superiority. Like if you don't follow this method exactly, found in this book only, you are going to be like those "other" parents. The ones with the out of control kids. You have to be a "insert method's name here" parent!

It's this tone that really gets under my skin. It turns me into a quiet rebel, and makes me just want to "wing it". (I am really not a rebel at all, but this is what these books are doing to me.)

I believe loving, supportive parents and a good home environment are the best things you can give a kid. So we are just deciding on the standards of behavior that we want, and being consistent. I don't want to be crazy strict on little things, because that is not my personality and I think it would stress the whole family out.

So, sometimes we hang out in our diapers in the morning (At least until breakfast has been eaten.. very messy meal in our house ;)
I let them wear shoes that they find around the house, even if they aren't exactly masculine shoes:
I let them carry around food at times, especially for a quick snack when I don't want to deal with the high chairs. (And it's not always something as healthy as broccoli, but they do love broccoli, and I had to get a picture :P)
I don't stress out if they throw a fit in the grocery store (simultaneously). Okay I stress a little because I think other parents are judging me. And I'm afraid someone is going to hurt themselves. But when it is close to nap time, and the kids are hungry, I don't feel it is the kids' fault at all. That is how they show over-tiredness and hunger at this age.

And we are very, very happy :) And I think Adam & Matthew are good kids. Alan and I are both mellow, so I don't feel like they got any crazy hyperactive genes. We do use "time out" a lot... that is their least favorite thing ever, and it has been very effective. Helps everyone have a breather, and they come out of time out much happier; just glad to be back with the family.

I will continue reading for ideas, but I refuse to feel guilty for not following someone's perfect method of child rearing. We have room to grow, but we will grow at our pace :)

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Reactions to Twin News

We had video rolling as I received the news in April, 2010 that we were having twins. Here is the video:
video

That night we invited the grandparents over to share the news with them:
video