Sunday, December 11, 2011

Biting

T0day while I was getting the boys ready to take their bath, I noticed a bite mark on Adam's back AND on his arm :( Both bite marks had cut through the skin.

Poor Adam.

Or that was my first thought. Then I remembered how much he loves to steal his brother's toys, and it seems Matthew has found a defense against this.

In fact as I was reading them their bedtime stories, Adam tried to steal a book from Matthew, and Matthew acted like he was going to bite him. So, Adam put up a hand to defend himself, and I broke them up before it could escalate.

We think Matthew may have bitten Adam while they were playing in the play room by themselves, because neither me nor Alan saw the actual bite.

I am reading a book that says biting can happen when a child is over-socialized and frustrated. Does it count as over-socialization to have your identical twin (with very similar wants and needs) trailing you everywhere, and wanting your toys? The book suggests a different environment, but I don't see me separating the boys in the house. I think I will just have to be more proactive about not allowing stealing or biting.

So to sum it up we have:
1. A biting problem (Matthew)
2. A stealing problem (Adam)
3. A discipline problem. We need to nip this in the bud!!

3 comments:

Alyson said...

I have identical twin boys that seem to be starting on the same path as your guys! They have yet to break the skin of their brother, but we definitely find a lot of red teeth marks! =( I agree, separating twins just isn't the answer, but I'm not sure what is! Curious to see what ideas you have on remedying the biting situation! =)

Alyson said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
uneggsplained said...

Ouch! I hope you are able to figure something out. I know I will be coming back and reading your posts again, when my boys are older, to glean as much advice and help as I can get :)
Good luck! You sound like such a great mom!